How is your love life during this government lockdown? Do you find you two grow closer or apart? If life throws us the Corona virus, try to use it as a golden chance to improve your love and sex life! And this blog will be of help! Below, we will show you how this pandemic affects our sex lives and relationships, and also how to take advantages of these isolated days.
Needless to say, lots of couples are experiencing hardship in their intimate lives. According to a survey, 44% of thousands of participants faced a decline in their sex life while 30% found their romantic life to be the same as before.
However, there are couples whose sex life had actually improved as they found new opportunities to change their intimate lives for better. And in this blog, we will share with you their precious tips!
1. Create New Things in the Bedroom
No matter how much we try to deny, we are turned on by novelty and newness when it comes to sex. A sex routine will get us bored easily and this pandemic surely makes many of us feel like we are in a rut. The whole social distancing prevents us from going out, so it’s natural to grow some demand for something fresh, new, interesting, and exciting. But it can become the golden chance to try out new bedroom activities you haven’t had enough time or motivation to explore before.
According to the mentioned survey, 1 out of 5 adults admitted that they added at least a new activity to their sex life since the pandemic outbreak. Here are some of the most common additions they revealed:
- Trying new position or location at home
- Filming themselves during sex
- Trying a remote-controlled sex toy
- Sharing and/or trying a sexual fantasy that they have never done before
Unsurprisingly, they are also the ones who said that both their sex life and their relationship had improved. To be exact, they are three times more likely to experience improvements in their bedroom than those who didn’t explore new sexual things.
So, start to plan for tonight! Share with your partner your own sexual fantasy, suggest new sex positions or locations (like the shower or kitchen counter), order a new sex toy online, and pull out your sexy lingerie. Don’t sweat it though! Anything new, even a small one, can be a good start!
2. Manage Stress and Cultivate Desire
2020 was expected to be a big year, but it turned out to be the opposite. It’s normal to feel worried, stressed, anxious and even on the edge now. The world is full of uncertainties and we have kept hearing bad news for such a long time. But if your mind is not cleared of those thoughts, you cannot get in the mood for sexual activities. And the survey proves it. The more stressed you are, the less sexually active you will be.
To be excited enough to try out new things we listed above, you first need to cope with stress effectively to cultivate desire. And here is some tips to do it:
- Engage meditation or mindfulness techniques into daily life
- Go offline from news, email and social media
- Work out, take a long bath or give each other massages
If you manage to sort out forms of self-care for both of you, you will have some opportunities to be relaxed and focused on each other rather than on the pandemic.
3. Set Up a Romantic Date Night
During the lockdown, all of your regular date spots such as cinemas, restaurants, bars, etc are temporarily closed. But you can always set up a romantic date night right at home. All it takes is just a little effort and creativity.
Clean Up. Many women have a tendency to dress up for others, but their partners. They look good only when they know they will meet people. However, if you want to increase the odds of success, treat this lockdown date exactly like a real one. Take a shower, groom, and put on your favorite dress and lingerie! This effort will definitely pay off as it helps enhance your sexual appeal to your partner and show them that you care.
Plan It Out. Plan a list of activities you think will make the night great. You might want to cook your signature dish, order your favorite meal, mix some cocktails while watching the sunset, listening to music, watching a romantic movie or trying an erotic game or role-play.
The list goes on, and with a little creative thinking, you can surely create a relaxing/exciting night within your budget.
Make It Succeed. The date will not work out if you two are not focused on each other. Therefore, you should try to minimize distractions such as putting your phone on vibrate, shutting down your laptop and making sure kids won’t get in the way. No matter what you do, keep it in mind that this is an opportunity for you both to disconnect from stress and reconnect with each other.
4. Don’t Forget What Comes After Sex Matters Too
Researches show that after-sex affection plays a big role. Those who spoon, cuddle and have intimate conversations after sex tend to be more satisfied with their sex lives and relationships. It’s more important than ever to sustain such an intimate connection as rates of sexual activity down right now. These post-sex activities help release the hormone oxytocin, which increases feelings of bondedness and connection.
It does not take much, just some touching after sex can help you two stay in touch and potentially be helpful in terms of cultivating more sexual desire and satisfaction.
This challenging time puts our intimate lives to the test and many couple notice that their sex lives and relationships are in decline. But we can always turn crisis to opportunity as long as we stay positive and motivated. Take this as a unique chance to reconnect with our partners, redefine sex, and change our intimate lives for better!