Do you know what’s one of the top natural aphrodisiacs for a man? A woman that has sexual self-confidence! Being a self-confident and secure woman doesn’t mean she has to have the perfect body and hair. And although sex isn’t everything, having sexual confidence is important to a happy, forever-lasting relationship. You don’t have to go through any course or therapy to get this awesome trait. Keep reading to learn simple ways to gaining sexual self-confidence to better your life!


1) Build Your Self-Esteem


One way to becoming a sexually confident woman is by building your self-esteem mentally. You need to have self-positive talk and avoid being too hard on yourself. Learn to see the good in you and appreciate those characteristics, instead of focusing on reasons why you think you aren’t good enough.

Another way to build self-confidence is physically, with exercise. Exercise causes the body to release endorphins, the happy hormones that makes your mood positive. Not only that, it will also make you strong, healthy and fit, which contributes to your overall confidence as well.

And although many women don’t think about this (or don’t voice it out loud), but a third way is internally by having a tight hooha. One of the major downers that make a lot of women insecure in bed is their condition downstairs. Having a loose vagina can drastically decrease you and your partners’ pleasure in bed.




You can try kegel exercises to tighten things up down there, but that could take some time before you see improvement, or gain enough discipline to remember to even do them! An simple and effective way to tighten and strengthen your vagina is by taking Kacip Fatimah.  Kacip Fatimah is an herb that is made of high-quality phytoestrogen. It’s been used for centuries for vaginal tightening and also has effects in making breasts firmer, perkier as well as increase your body’s metabolism.

Also Read: Benefits to Keeping the Vagina Healthy

With a confident mind and body (outside and inside!), you will surely gain the sexual self-confidence for sexy time with your partner any day of the week!


2) Learn What Turns You On


In order to really tap into your inner sexual kitten, you need to get a better understanding of what turns you on. You can do this by exploring your body through masturbation and exploring your sexuality by reading erotic novels and karma sutra books that teach you different positions and ideas to experiment with your partner.

Also Read: 8 Things That You Should Know About Your Vagina


Learning about your sex parts can also help serve as a map to exploring new sensual areas you never knew were even there. This can help you and your partner learn “the right buttons to push” during sexy time.


3) Show Off Your Self-Confidence


Taking the time to put on a great outfit and doing your make-up can help make you feel more sexually self-confident. When you know you look good, you’ll also feel good. But sometimes, we go above and beyond to look sexy, but can’t breathe because the dress is too tight or can’t eat because we’re afraid a belly-pudge will show. So put on things that not only accentuates your best features, but are also comfortable.

Another huge tip is to always be yourself. There’s no need to pretend to be someone you’re not, and this will just become added stress to your life. You could maybe fake your confidence until you make it, but stay true to your morals and values. If your partner wants you to do something that you aren’t comfortable with, don’t be afraid to say no.

And stop comparing yourself with other people! Everyone is unique in their own ways and this isn’t a competition; you will only make yourself feel worse by doing so.


4) Communicate With Your Partner

A very common mistake people in relationships make is not communicating with their partner. How often have you heard your girlfriends complain to you about their partner while their partner is completely left in the dark and clueless about any of it?! Not only is that not fair to your partner, but you are also setting up your relationship for failure.

There’s nothing wrong with being the person to initiate the conversation. Communicate what your desires are and what kind of things turn you on. You can also communicate with non-verbal cues, such as moaning, body movements, and facial expressions.

Now remember it’s not a one-sided street, so also ask and listen to what your partner likes and return the favor. Knowing that you are satisfying and pleasing your partner will also give you a boost of sexual self-confidence.




Having sexual self-confidence will not only boost your sex life, but also your daily interactions with others. The way you carry conversation and carry yourself will naturally attract people to you.

Becoming sexually self-confident is really not hard to do! You just need to change your perspective on the way you think about yourself, how you take care of your body, and how you take care of your man. Create your new thinking and emotional patterns and become a sexually self-confident woman today!